Meaning & Wellbeing: Looking to the Future

For those who are interested, I have a second website dedicated to my role as a Logotherapist & Existential Analysis. Logotherapy was developed by Psychiatrist and Holocaust Survivor Prof. Viktor Frankl; its premise is that humans are motivated by the pursuit of meaning throughout their lives and in individual circumstances. In his book ‘Man’s Search for Ultimate Meaning’, Frankl writes: “Man is originally characterized by his “search for meaning” rather than his “search for himself.” The more he forgets himself—giving himself to a cause or another person—the more human he is. And the more he is immersed and absorbed in something or someone other than himself the more he really becomes himself.” 

Logotherapy can be characterised as ‘healing through meaning’ and has a broad range of applications, especially in relation to navigating existential problems e.g. career choice, retirement, relationships, bereavement and living well with chronic ill-health.  Logotherapy helps us to take control of our loves by accepting that “Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose.” (Viktor Frankl).

You can visit the website here: www.scottpeddie.com

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Beneath the Facade: Honesty in Suffering

I generally write a short reflection for our (Cliftonville Moravian Church) newsletter. Here is the May instalment:

Quite a few years ago now, when I travelled extensively with work, I would often pick up items of interest from the countries, town or cities I visited.  One of my favourite items is a Malaysian painted face mask I bought whilst visiting the Johor Bahru region, a few miles across the causeway from Singapore.

These masks, I later found out, were historically tribal attire that was used in a range of ceremonies, in addition to decorating homes.  I was struck by the intricacies of the hand-painted design and the beautiful mixture of vibrant colours that really brought an inanimate object to life.

And so this ‘souvenir’ sits proudly on a display shelf in my sitting room; the colours catch my eye each and every time in walk in to the room.  It is a welcoming face that reminds me of an earlier period in my life, filled with travel and the joy of learning about new and diverse cultures, some of which are significantly different to our own.

The mask is an item known to many cultures throughout antiquity.  In our own contemporary society, we frequently ‘put on a mask’, although in a metaphorical sense. We hide our true emotions behind that mask, which can be multifaceted and every changing, but however it manifests itself, it always has a spiritual dimension at its core.

How many times, I wonder, do we hide our true emotions behind a smile or an upbeat demeanour?  How often, do we say ‘I’m fine’, when the truth is somewhat different, or even radically different – when we are struggling to cope with a painful life event or series of perceived failures? Or what about those instances when we wrestle with a spiritual malaise that there seems to be no answer to?

In truth, we can never really tell at first glance whether or not the facade is real or forced; it can take some time to unearth emotional turmoil and pain bubbling underneath the surface.  And that is why we need to take to heart that aphorism attributed, sometimes to Plato, but by others to John Watson: ‘Be kind; everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle’. How hard that battle actually is we can only guess at, in each individual we meet, from an emotional and physical distance.

As a therapist I see people from all walks of life; many exhibit an outward demeanour of confidence and contentment with life, but behind the mask, constructed to please others, or even to convince themselves, there is much suffering and pain, struggling to find an outlet.  As a Minister I know that those who care for others are sometimes the hardest hit and feel under the most pressure to retreat beneath the facade they have either carefully constructed and cultivated, or has been projected on to them.

But society is changing, and I would contend, very much for the better.  No doubt you are aware that recently, in their quest to encourage us all to tackle the stigma and prejudice that still sadly accompanies mental illness, the new generation of the royal family have been very proactive in encouraging us all to step from behind the facade and to talk openly of our emotions.  That can only be a good thing, for individuals, but also for wider society. The typical ‘stiff upper lip’ approach of our culture has been advantageous in displaying fortitude and Stoicism, but leaves us ill-prepared to deal with the emotional health and wellbeing of ourselves and others.

As a community of faith, we should be especially alert to these messages of openness and honesty.  After all, Jesus himself was a master of seeing beyond the facade and engaging with the real person behind it.  When we consider those many awe-inspiring and life-changing encounters he had in his earthly ministry – reaching out and touching the spiritual core of those on the margins.  We read of a Jesus who could see the pain of the Samaritan woman, the struggles sick man at the Pool of Bethesda, and the spiritual distress of the woman who was haemorrhaging and ostracised from her community.

Also as a community of faith, we are reminded in an equally important manner of the Jesus who saw beyond the legalistic and pious mask of the Pharisees, and found within a dearth of spiritual connectedness with the God of grace and love for all.

So what do we do?  Where do we go from here?  Well, it is no small step to admit our vulnerability, to each other as a loving, Christian community; it is no small step to open up and admit when we need help or support, emotional or otherwise.  It can be hard too, to see those around us in the light of their own struggles.  Remember those words of the famous Lutheran Minister, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, who wrote in his book ‘The Cost of Discipleship’:  “Suffering, then, is the badge of true discipleship. The disciple is not above his master. Following Christ means passio passiva, suffering because we have to suffer.”  And I would add, not being ashamed to own that suffering and to let others enter into our emotional and spiritual lives to share in all that we go through; we can only do that by ridding ourselves of the ‘all is well’ mask.

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Bonhoeffer did of course put this more poetically than I ever could, when he observed: We must learn to regard people less in light of what they do or omit to do, and more in the light of what they suffer.” And we can only do that when we begin to chip away at that facade and reveal our true selves to those we live in community with, and to live honestly in the light of God’s love.

We all have burdens that we carry – some less significant and disabling that others – but they are burdens nonetheless that prompt us to turn to God.  We all know those immensely powerful words, uttered by Jesus and recorded in Matthew 11:28, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest”.

But as we turn to God, we need to be cognizant of the fact that he works through others in their vulnerability, and opens us up to new possibilities through our vulnerability.  Here, I want to finish this short reflection with the words of Teresa of Avila:

“Christ has no body now on earth but yours,
no hands but yours,
no feet but yours,
Yours are the eyes through which to look out
Christ’s compassion to the world
Yours are the feet with which he is to go about
doing good;
Yours are the hands with which he is to bless men now.”

So I look now at my magnificent souvenir mask, as an object of beauty and a reminder of new cultural vistas explored, but also as an aide memoire that the mask is not always meant to be worn – the contours of our true selves is infinitely more cherished and loved by God than any facade we may construct.

Every blessing, Scott

Forthcoming Seminar: Spirituality, Mental Health & Reflective Practice

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Spirituality, Mental Health & Reflective Practice

Thursday 7th April 2016, 1pm – 5pm

Mirabilis Health, Holywood House

The interface between spirituality and mental health is becoming increasingly important for Clergy, Chaplains and Pastoral Carers. The emotional demands placed upon those working in pastoral care are such that reflective practice is invaluable in promoting practitioner wellbeing, facilitating good practice and optimising effectiveness.

If you are a Pastoral Carer (Minister, Priest, Chaplain, Pastor, Student, Youth/Children/Family Worker, Member-Care or Pastoral-Care Team Members, etc.) or are just interested in finding out more about the topic or the application of reflective practice in your current role, then we would like to invite YOU to attend this exciting seminar!

Programme

1.  “Reflective Practise – Practical Applications in Pastoral Work and Self-Care” by Rev. Dr. Scott Peddie

2.  “Religion and Psychiatry – Religious, ill, or both?” by Dr. Volodimir Bezulowsky MD

3.  Reflective group

There will be time for refreshments, reflection and discussion.

Speakers

Rev. Dr. Scott Peddie BSc., MSc., MDiv., PhD., GradCertTh, FRSA, Academic Associate in Logotherapy (Dublin), Diploma in Logotherapy & Existential Analysis (Dublin/Vienna) is a Logotherapist and Existential Analyst offering one-to-one therapy sessions and bespoke training at Mirabilis Health. Scott is an ordained Minister and has experience in pastoral care in a range of settings; he has also been offering mindfulness training and spiritual direction at Mirabilis for a number of years.

Dr. Volodimir Bezulowsky MD, is an Associate Specialist Psychiatrist and Accredited EMDR therapist at Mirabilis Health. He has past experience in Substance Misuse and worked for eleven years in an Adolescent Mental Health unit. He has a special interest in psychiatry and spirituality, and regularly offers mental health training to clergy, chaplains, pastoral or youth workers in faith-based organisations.

Venue

Mirabilis Health, Holywood House, 1 Innis Court, Holywood, Co. Down, BT18 9HF

Registration

In order to secure your place in this seminar please confirm your attendance in advance. Closing date for registrations is Thursday 24th March.

Price £45.00

Payments can be made by cash, credit/debit card or cheques written to ‘Mirabilis Health’

 

For further information and to register please contact

Arlington Barron (Training Manager, Mirabilis Health)

Tel: 02890 426918

Email: mirabilis.training@icloud.com

What Is Psychotherapy?

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As philosopher Alain de Botton points out in this excellent short film, ‘having some psychotherapy is just about the most significant and interesting thing you could do to improve your chances of contentment – in relationships, at work, and with friends and family’.

We are all complex creatures who are flawed and struggle at times to make sense of ourselves and the world we inhabit.  Contrary to popular belief, psychotherapy is not just for people who live with depression, anxiety or other mental health conditions.  Rather it helps individuals to understand themselves more fully and to live life more authentically.

The form of psychotherapy I practice – Logotherapy – is essentially meaning-centred therapy and is built on the premise that finding meaning in life and life circumstances is essential.  The other part of Logotherapy is Existential Analysis – this helps us to engage with ourselves and to explore how we fit into the world.

Want to find out more?  You can e-mail me at scottpeddie@sky.com.

Logotherapy & Existential Analysis: Is It For Me?

I’ve recently received my diploma in Logotherapy & Existential Analysis from the Viktor Frankl Institute of Ireland (Dublin) and the International Association of Logotherapy and Existential Analysis (Vienna).  I will therefore be offering Logotherapy (a meaning-centred approach to the treatment of a condition, illness, or maladjustment) at Mirabilis Health in Holywood, Co. Down, Northern Ireland, an innovative mixed private practice of psychiatrists, therapists and psychologists (www.mirabilishealth.co.uk).

Prof. Alexander Batthyany of The Viktor Frankl Institute Vienna writes this of the background to this specific therapeutic approach:

The development of Logotherapy and Existential Analysis dates back to the 1930s. On the basis of Sigmund Freud’s Psychoanalysis and Alfred Adler’s Individual Psychology the psychiatrist and neurologist Viktor Emil Frankl (1905-1997) laid down the foundations of a new and original approach which he first published in 1938. Logotherapy/Existential Analysis, sometimes called the “Third Viennese School of Psychotherapy”, is an internationally acknowledged and empirically based meaning-centered approach to psychotherapy.

In Logotherapy/Existential Analysis (LTEA) the search for a meaning in life is identified as the primary motivational force in human beings (http://www.viktorfrankl.org/e/logotherapy.html).

Similarly, Dr. Stephen J. Costello, Director of the Irish Frankl Institute explains the range of conditions and circumstances in which logotherapy can be utilised:

Those who have identifiable symptoms such as:

• phobias

• obsessive-compulsions

• stuttering

• sexual dysfunctions

• stress

• depression

• anxiety

• addictions

• panic attacks

insomnia

Those who are questioning or exploring the meaning of life, love, relationships, sexuality, work, or experiencing meaninglessness, boredom, emptiness or despair, or simply feel that they have not reached their full potential or perceive they are leading an unfulfilled life (http://www.viktorfranklireland.com/Viktor_Frankl_Institute_of_Ireland_-_Therapy.html). 

The first logotherapy service available in Northern Ireland will be launched shortly.  I will be initially offering consultations on Tuesday evenings and all-day Friday.  Should you require any further information, or have any questions, please do not hesitate to contact me via e-mail (scottpeddie@sky.com).  Alternatively, you can contact Mirabilis Health directly – details are available on our website (www.mirabilishealth.co.uk).

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